喜福会 英文读后感

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喜福会 英文读后感 第1篇

喜福会英文读后感

Reading the novel is not the first time of my knowing The Joy Luck Club. When I watched the film, the meaning of the title, the theme of the novel, the reason for the arrangement of stories from four mothers and their daughters and other important things were all unknown to me. But I knew that was my type for it is about feelings between mothers and daughters, and especially chinese speaking Eglish.

Amy Tan, a Chinese American writer, is the author of the book in which she explors the mother-daughter relationships. Originally, the relationships between mother and daughter seem to be quite complex in a family but in Amy Tan“s work, it is perfectly typical for its portrayal of conflicts between the traditional Chinese mothers speaking shabby English and the open wholly Americanized daughters who just wear a Chinese face but speak fluent English. I never think it is richly dramatical, and instead these kinds of conflicts, in fact, truly ecists in many Chinese immigrants” family. The novel is written impressively and deeply especially, I think, in understanding of mothers“ love for their daughters for reasons that the previous experience of her with her mother provided the basis for her novel. It is said that the exprience of anthor is similar to that of Jingmei woo. Maybe, the novel implies the deep and complex feelings of auther for her mother and her closest relatives in China.

It gives me a greatly deep impression that the book is begun with Feathers From a Thousand LI Away. It penetrates the mothers” hope and love for their daughters through a swan“s feather. Through the old woman”s words In America I will have a daughter just like me. But over there nobody will say her worth is measured by the loudness of her husband“s belch. Over there nobody will look down on her, because I will make her speak only perfect American English. And over there she will always be too full to swallow any sorrow! She will know my meaning, because I will give her this swana creature that became more than what was hoped for. and the mothers” former tragic sufferings, we will find that all the mothers are in hope of their daughters never suffering from their sufferings. And the mothers waited, year after year, for the day, they could tell their daughters it is their hope through a feather of the swan in perfect American English. At first, it is a little difficult to understand the reason for these words. However, through the whole novel, in fact, you will find the old woman represents the four mothers, the feather of swan embodies the hope of mothers for their daughters. These sentences show implicitly the feelings of author and her understandings for mothers. In fact, in the Joy Luck Club, the feather indeed is gained by Jingmei Woo. And from the beginning to the end,the feather has been existing.

Only if one high-quality novel, like a perfect verse, needs you spending much time reading once more, you will understand something. I thought that the novel is loosely plotted and is in disorder. But the fact verifies that I am wrong. Through the whole story, the novel begins with the death of Jingmei“s mother and ends in Jingmei visiting China to see the twin-half sisters whom her mother had been forced to abandon when the Japanese attacked China many years ago. What”s more, in detail, the stories of four mothers and four daughters have relative connections in theme about love between them and the mothers“ hope for their daughters. And the theme shows the comflicts and harmonization between different cultures.Then I think why the author titled the novel Joy Luck Club . I am puzzled by it and the purpose of writer. The name of club made mention of by Jingmei”s mother. And the author directly titling the novel the name of their meeting implies her feelings for her mother. I can guess that the title originated from a kind of hope or belief. According to mothers“ former sufferings, they were not happy. Even at the present, all of them hides the previous tragic experiences. Maybe, the club is a place where they can pretend to be happy or avoid the past memory or worries or even the shock of culture.

Reading the novel is as we are reading our life and then think our past, present and futere. Especially, the conflict between Waverly Jang and her mother impresses me most. Waverly is a woman who is quite independent-mined and intelligent, but her mother”s constant criticism is terribly annoying. She once had a gift for international chess.however, when she realized her mother taking advantage of her achievement and talent to show off in public, especially to the strangers, she felt terribly ashamed and annoyed. She shouted to you can not make me . From then on, her mother felt cold at Waverly and were particularabout her favorite things. In fact, I think Waverly felt sacred subconsciously at letting her mother down and something that she did was aimed at flattering her mother. When waverly brought her boyfriend, Rich, to her families, her mother just smiled but she still was particular about Rich“s appearance, having many spots on his face. Description about the conflicts of manners between Chinese tradition and American notions has given me a greatly deep impression and quite interesting. These words of And then he had helped himself to big portions of the shrimp and snow peas, not realizing he should have taken only a polite spoonful, until everybody had had a morsel. vividly express the American character of being casual which counts as discourtesy in China. The part of Rich criticizing her mother”s cooking is quite funny and impressive. Our Chinese habit of making disparaging remarks seems to be extremely common. Being modest and avoiding showing off are parts of Chinese traditional manners. Her mother complaining about This dish not salty enough, no flavor , in fact, was a cue to eat some and proclaim it it the best she had ever made. But the Rich did not understand. From the following description of her mother being horrified, I judged that her mother was bly objective against Rich and even their marriage. Waverly also had such an opinion. But I am wrong and from their conversation I understand something more important. Mother is the only one that understands their daughters or sons in the world.And none of the mothers do not love their children. And the heaty conversattion can make a b bridge between the different generation or even the peonple from the different cultures. I find that if you would not like to tell your hearty words out, others are not able to know what you are and what you think. People each have different opinions about the same things. Waverly had thought that her mother disapproved of her marriage and hated her Rich. However, her mother“s meaningful words surprised Waverly and even me. Just be particular about who I really care for and love. It occured to me that whoever we hurt is always who we really love for reasons that others would not care for our complaint. Yes, who will care for those who you do not love ? The answer is known by us fron the beginning to the end. It is the love for Waverly that her mother has been showing her. Waverly, a wholly Americanized girl, never trully knew her mother and was ignorant of the love for her. Indeed, the language and the culture did make a great difference in the exchange of feelings, which is a terribly high barrier between Waverly and her mother, also between other three mothers and their daughters. But love and understandings, finally will prevail over others.

Personally, through the whole novel, the conflict between mothers and daughters, virtually, is that of the cultures between the East and the West. Mothers represent the classic, traditional Chinese culture but the daughters are the symbol of just, free, open and modern American one, which are two kinds of contradictory elements. However, through the whole novel, it is easier to find that finally they can understand each other and be in harmony. When Jing-Mei saw her twin-half sisters, she was surprised at this kind of familiarity. And now I also see what part of me is Chinese. It is so obvious. It is my family. It is in our blood. After all these years, it can finally be let go. shows that Jing-Mei understood her mother”s stubbornness and love and was struck by mother“s greatness. The resolution of the contradiction shows that the cultures of the East and the West can be in harmony with each other.

喜福会 英文读后感 第2篇

My Reflection of The Joy Luck Club

I wonder that when seeing the name The Joy Luck Club most people would treat it as a story filled with happiness and love.In fact, besides love, it is also about the cultural conflicts between four daughters and their mothers.The film is based on the best seller by Amy Tan of the same name.It shows us the lives of four Chinese women who were immigrants to America during the 1950s.As a mother, each of them has a lot of problems with their daughter because of cultural conflicts.The misunderstanding of love between the mothers and their American-raised daughters, the clash between the generations and cultures, and the struggle for the women to fight for equity touch every audience’s heart.Though I was also attracted by something with extensiveness——I want to talk about some points about the language.I had learnt that what are high context communication and low context communication and what is different between them.The former is one in which most of the information is internalized in a person, while very little in the coded, explicit, transmitted part of the message——we must guess what the real meaning of the words is;while the other is the opposite.Chinese just the stands for the former and English is the representative of the latter.An interesting scene in the movie just shows us this.When Waverly’s boyfriend Richie had a dinner with Waverly’s big Chinese family for the first time, he made some stupid mistakes.He brought his typical American habit when the they were eating and he couldn’t understand what Lindo(Waverly’s mother)mean when she said “ He has an appetite”.When Lindo brought a dish which she was very proud of, as a Chinese, she still said some formulae that the dish was not salty enough and it was too bad to eat;that suggested that everyone around the table should speak highly of her dish after their first degustation;while Richie didn’t understand that Chinese all like to be modest and he criticized Lindo’s cooking, just saying what he thought in his mind directly.What Richie did led to a very embarrassing atmosphere in the dinner and made Lindo very disappointed and

disgraced.The misunderstanding of a different culture and a different language is the mainly reason causing the awkward occasion.If Richie had known what he had faced with was a group of people with different culture and saying a high context language, and had done some preparation for that different traditional Chinese dinner, he could have avoid to making so many foolish mistake.To understand what a Chinese mean you could not just follow the superficial message transmitted by his words, instead, you should connect those words to his cultural background and the situation you are in.By appreciating the movie we could realize the culture of a people from their language.In this movie the cultural conflicts between the mothers’ traditional Chinese concept and the daughters’ up-to-date American concept are fully described by their dialogues and soliloquies.In conclusion, a language is really the mirror of a culture;and if we want to understand the marrow of a culture we could appreciate its language.

喜福会 英文读后感 第3篇

Published in 1989,Amy Tan's first novel The Joy Luck Club is a popular and critical sensation which successfully depicts the intricate mother-daughter relationship under the crossculture background.However,the success of this novel should not only be attributed to its vivid depiction of mother-daughte relationship but also to its innovative narrative strategy which has ideological function from the feminist narratology perspective.Instead of telling a whole story in one major plot,sixteen"her stories"revolving around the integral theme of mother-daughter relationship are narrated from multiple voices of Chinese mothers and their American born daughters without a clear plot at all Through the unusual narrative voice,Amy Tan further reveals the struggle of double marginalized overseas Chinese women to find their own identity and face the ethic self.

2 Two Different Perceptions of"Voice"

In traditional study of narratology,the term of"voice"refers to the narrator or teller in the novel as a formalistic structure irrelevant with the political or social context.However,the feminis views"voice"as the actual or fictional actions from one particular person or a community who represents the perceptions centered on women.Thus,the term of"voice"has become a symbo of identity and power.As Luce Irigaray says,there is a"voix"(voice),there is a"voie"(way).[1]Traditionally,the feminist criticism never touches upon the narrative devices.However,Lanse points out that"the narrative voice as a narrative device is no only the product of ideology but also the ideology itself."[2]As a representative of feminist narratology,Lanser for the first time connects the narrative device with the social and political context so as to better understand women writers'works.She points out that women's narrative voice is actually the field of ideological struggle which is expressed in and between the texts.

3.1 Communal Narrative Voice

The Joy Luck Club is said to be a challenge to narrative norm in which the most distinguished narrative form is its multiple narrative voices.Normally,there is only one narrative voice in a novel to narrate a whole story.However,in Amy Tan's The Joy Luck Club,there are seven narrators:three Chinese mothers and four American born daughters taking turns to tell stories This is a typical case of communal narrative voice which"refers to a kind of narration in which a community is bestowed with the narrative authority realized by multiple narrative voices."[3]According to Lanser,It is the communal narrative voice that is normally employed by the marginalized and suppressed community in the society.Thus,it often carries with political and ideological significance.

As overseas Chinese women,mothers and daughters are marginalized from the main culture and the other powerful gender.As the"Other"in the society of America,both mothers and daughters in the double marginalized place lost the"voice"Mothers lost their courage to face the past and they don't dare to mention it to their daughters,while daughters,being afraid to identify themselves with their mothers,lost their courage to face with the ethnic self.However,through the communal narrative voice Amy Tan let them sequentially voice out their true emotions and feelings,their sorrow and happiness.These monologues actually serve significantly as inner dialogues between mothers and daughters so that they can know each other deeper and better.As Gloria Shen argues,the sharing of cultural experiences between mothers and daughters through the device of storytelling transforms structurally isolated monologues into meaningful dialogues between mother and mother.[4]

On deeper level,by depicting the intricate bonding between mothers and daughter,Amy Tan is actually reproaching the American hegemonic culture and the patriarchal society which suppress the overseas Chinese women.In America,overseas Chinese women often face with problems of race,gender and culture The representative example is the marriage of Rose who marries an American Ted.From the beginning,Rose considers herself inferior to Ted and she even enjoys this kind of feeling as a weak party."I was always in danger and he was always rescuing me.would fall and he would lift me up.It was exhilarating and draining.The emotional effect of saving and being saved was addicting to both of us."[5]This kind of distorted feeling reflects wel Rose's uncertainty about her identity as an overseas Chinese woman,which finally arouses Ted's dislike and suggestion of divorce.In this vital situation Rose mother An-mei encourages he daughter to speak out for herself by telling Rose her own story back in China about how she fights against the patriarchal repression.An-mei's story gives the courage to her daughter.She shocked Ted by saying bravely"you can't just pull me out o your life and throw me away."Rose powerful voice saves he marriage at the end,which symbolizes the self-assertion abou her ethnic self.Thus,the communal narrative voice by mothers and daughters plays like the polyphonic music strongly and powerfully to resist the double repressed situation overseas Chinese women faced with in America.

3.2 The Narrative Voice of Mothers

The establishment of narrative authority in this novel is especially reflected by the narrative voice of mothers who are normally silent.In the novel,mothers have the opportunity to express their feelings and emotions by their own voices.Compared with American born daughters,Chinese mothers actually are more marginalized than their daughters.They have a very hard life back in China before coming to America.When living in America as aged mothers who cannot speak fluent English,they are often misunderstood and even seen through colored glasses by their own daughters.Their daughters think them stupid when seeing their mothers explain things in fractured English.The conflict between mothers and daughters is actually the conflic between two different cultures.As Pu Ruoqian argues,"the image of mother symbolizes the traditional Chinese culture while the image of daughter is an epitome of American culture".[6]However Chinese mothers still love their American born daughters unconditionally.They choose to swallow their sorrow in front of their daughters keeping their misery past in secret.But it turns out that their daughters are as ignorant as they were young back in China where they were taught not to speak.Mothers finally bravely voice out their past so as to let their daughters know that they should choose for their own lives and speak out for themselves.In the fourth section,When Rose's mother An-mei is told by her daughter that her marriage is falling apart,she tells her own story to her daughter."You do not need a psychiatrist to do this.A psychiatrist does not want you to wake up…he is just another bird drinking from your misery."[7]Through mother's encouragement,An-mei wants to instill in her daughter a strong sense of self as Rose is a traditionally passive individual.Encouraged by mother An-mei,Rose finally saves the marriage with Ted finding her own voice.

4 Conclusion

From the perspective of feminist narratology,the narrative voice especially in women's works should not be only deemed as a formalistic structure of a novel but also as a device to reflect deeply the ideological struggle of gender,race and culture which women are often involved in.Through the unusual narrative voice,mothers and daughters produce a better understanding towards each other,and finally find their own"voice".The narrative form here carries with great ideological and political function.Thus,Amy Tan further establishes the narrative authority of female narrators for the marginalized overseas Chinese women in a cross culture background.

参考文献

[1] Irigaray,Luce.This Sex Which is Not One [M].Ithaca:Cornell University Press,1985:209.

[2] 苏珊.兰瑟.虚构的权威:女性作家与叙述声音[M].黄必康, 译.北京:北京大学出版社,2002.

[3] 苏珊.兰瑟.虚构的权威:女性作家与叙述声音[M].黄必康, 译.北京:北京大学出版社,2002:23.

[4] Shen,Gloria."Born of a Stranger: Mother-Daughter Relation- ships and Storytelling in Amy Tan's The Joy Luck Club."[C]// International Women's Writing:New Landscapes of Identity Ed.Anne E.Brown and Marianna E.Gooze.Westport,CT:Green- wood,1995.

[5] Tan,Amy.The Joy Luck Club [M].United States:Ballantine Books, 1983:125.

[6] 蒲若茜.族裔经验与文化想象:华裔美国小说典型母题研究 [M].北京:中国社会科学出版社,2006:173.

五代喜福会 第4篇

第一代 Generation Ⅰ(1975～1981年)

从上世纪70年代开始,小型车开始在欧洲风靡,英国、法国和意大利等国家的小型车不断涌向欧洲,威力甚至波及全世界,让小型车一度成为人们爱不释手的新玩具。小型车的冲击力在某种程度上也对德国大众公司造成了影响,加快了大众公司对小型车的研发脚步。

1975年,第一代大众Polo正式发布,与之前大获成功的甲壳虫不同,Polo的外形设计更富有时代感,简洁干练的笔直线条和车身比例都来源于一款更早推出的奥迪50车型。大众在精简了冗赘的配件后,赋予Polo更多的是实用性突出和价格更加实惠的特点。不仅如此,车身源自奥迪50的第一代Polo拥有和它先辈同样宽大的车内空间和行李厢容积。

第一代Polo装备了0.9 L排量的4缸发动机,最大功率只有29 kW,即便以当时的技术标准衡量,这款发动机也不能算是出类拔萃的,但却能称得上是绝对的经济版本,满足了大多数家庭的使用要求。一年之后,大众推出了1.1 L排量的升级版Polo,最大功率上升至37 kW。在推出第一代Polo期间,大众公司还生产了一款Polo的三厢车型,名为Derby,装备的是一款日后同样在Polo上使用的1.3 L发动机。

第二代Generation Ⅱ(1981～1994年)

1981年德国法兰克福国际车展前夕,大众推出了第二代Polo。外形方面,大众设计师对第二代产品做了部分修改,保留三门设计的同时,缩小了行李厢后盖的斜度,尾部显得更加陡直。这样一来,原本两厢轿车后排空间宽大的优势进一步加强,后排座椅放倒后,行李空间可以扩展到1 000 L,如此的数据在当时可谓是同级别车型中的佼佼者。

在第二代Polo推出时,厂家对动力并没有做出更多的推进,1.1 L和1.3 L发动机仍然担任主要的动力输出。直到1982年,大众才推出了更加强调运动性能的Polo Coupe,这个车型分支开创了Polo运动版本的先河,同时为今后GTI版本Polo的诞生埋下了伏笔。

Polo量产之后的34年间有很多值得记忆的精彩时刻,其中在1983年,Polo的总产量达到100万辆,成为该车型历史中具有里程碑式意义的一页。在第二代Polo服役的14年间,大众对该车型进行了两次比较大的改进。第一次是在1986年,推出了当时Polo车型的顶级运动款Polo GT G40,排量1.3 L的GT G40装备了机械增压装置,最大功率达到85 kW,刷新了之前所有Polo车型的动力记录。同年,大众为Polo装备了首款柴油发动机,为小型车提供了更低燃油消耗的动力选择,其百公里油耗仅为6.0 L。

第三代Generation Ⅲ(1994～2001年)

经过前两代的发展,Polo已经在小型车市场稳稳站住了脚,逐渐确立了小巧实用的市场定位。时间进入上世纪90年代,汽车技术和制造理念有了长足进步,大众在1994年推出了第三代Polo。从新一代Polo身上我们看到,小型车的标准不再只是满足于日常的单纯驾驶需求,而是向追求舒适性、安全性和配置丰富方面发展。

第三代Polo在外形上有了脱胎换骨的变化,4门造型更适合普通家庭使用,经过修饰的流线型车身线条在满足时代审美的同时也更能有效降低风阻系数。由圆形改进为方形的前大灯搭配与车身同色的前保险,让第三代Polo拥有了一幅和同时代大众品牌车型相同的带有微笑表情的前脸。

从第三代产品开始,1.4 L和1.6 L发动机开始加入Polo的动力序列,不仅如此,大众还为其搭载了全新TDI涡轮直喷柴油发动机。所有这些能够加强内功的改进都得益于Polo和Golf之间有了更多技术共享的机会。

1998年Polo推出了GTI版本,GTI最初只用于Golf的运动车型,后来各厂家不同车型纷纷推出了GTI版本,渐渐地,GTI成为高性能紧凑轿车的代名词。Polo GTI也成为当时最快的Polo车型,最高时速超过了200 km/h,3 000辆装备了最大功率为88 kW的1.6 L发动机的Polo GTI刚上市便销售一空。到1999年时,Polo的累计产量已经突破600万辆。

第三代Polo的市场寿命只有8年时间,比上一代缩短了不少,正是由于科技的进步加快了产品换代的速度。最明显的变化是,在第三代Polo上,发动机运用了当时最新的电喷和增压技术,在制造中也使用了更多轻金属原料。同时,像ABS、助力转向、安全气囊等技术都提高了Polo的安全性和舒适性。

第四代Generation Ⅳ(2001～2009年)

2001年我们顺利迎来了第四代Polo,此时大众公司陆续整合了产品系列,并已经采用同平台战略研发新车,因此第四代Polo的底盘和大众旗下的斯柯达Fabia相同,在大众内部的编号为PQ24。

2002年第四代Polo被引进国内,落户上海大众。也是从这时起,国内消费者正式接触到Polo。在国外,大众对第四代Polo的外形做了一次“大手术”,抛弃了上一代产品周正的外形,转而把新Polo塑造成敦厚圆润的灵巧小车,特别是圆形前大灯让人回想起第一代和第二代时的造型。

第四代Polo面世短短4年后,也就是2005年,此时正值Polo诞生30周年,在这一年大众发布了第四代Polo中期改款车型,全新设计的U型前脸替代了之前可爱的四眼大灯设计,在动力方面也换装了1.4 L汽油直喷FSI发动机,更加注重环保和能耗问题。

第五代GenerationⅤ(2009年3月发布)

结合了Golf的动感和Scirocco尚酷的优雅,在2009年日内瓦车展亮相的第五代Polo展现给我们的是时尚潮流的外表,全新设计的前脸、平直的腰线和低矮的底盘都显示了新款Polo不同以往的造型理念。除了水平格栅和经典的紧凑两厢造型,你很难在第五代Polo上再找到老款的影子。

第五代Polo车长为3 952 mm,比上一代加长了36 mm,车身宽度也加宽了32 mm,达到1 682 mm。外形上第五代Polo的最大特点是车身压得很低,更贴近地面,高度只有1 454 mm,运动趋势更加明显。

大众此番为新款第五代Polo配备了具有高效环保的动力组合,其中有两款发动机是全新研发的,一款是1.2 L TSI涡轮增压直喷汽油发动机,最大功率为77 kW,百公里油耗只有5.5 L。另一款1.6 L TDI高压共轨柴油发动机,最大功率虽没有1.2 TSI出色的,但也达到了66 kW,对于紧凑型两厢Polo已经足够高效。

喜福会书评 英文 第5篇

The Expression of Love

——Book Review on The Joy Luck Club “The Joy Luck Club” is the story about the four central pairs of Chinese immigrant mothers and daughters born in America: Suyuan Woo and Jing-mei “June” Woo, An-mei Hsu and Rose Hsu Jordan, Lindo Jong and Waverly Jong, and Ying-ying St.Clair and Lena St.Clair.The novel shows us conflicts between mothers’ hopes and daughters’ disobedience and rebellion.The conflicts and misunderstanding may result from the generation gap and cultural difference, however, in my point of view, what rigidifies their relationship is the way of expressing love.It is no doubt that the mothers and the daughters love each other deeply and mothers spare no effort to give daughters everything they could provide.From mothers’ perspective, they hope daughters a brighter further and full of promises.So they express their love by planning daughters’ blueprints and then impose their will on daughters and force them to walk their scheduled path.And for daughters, especially those live in an American, they struggle for individual freedom and wish to live their own way.Due to schemed future, they cannot accurately make a definition for their identities.Under this condition, criticism form mothers and rebellion for daughters become how they express love.In this way, love becomes a heavy burden for both of them.Mothers and daughters need to express their love in the right way.So empathy and effective communications is of great importance.Mothers should show their love according to their daughters’ interest or at least make them know why they make the choice for them.Fortunately, the novel ends up with the reunion of mothers and the daughters.It is evident that due to mothers’ telling frank stories and daughters’ patient hearing, soul communication has happened among them.They perceive the deep love form each other.So expression of love is significant and remarkable.The novel teaches us how to express our love and is worth reading.参考文献

[1] Tan, Amy.1989.The Joy Luck Club [M].New York: Ivy Books.[2] A Study of Communication Barriers Between Mothers and Daughters in Amy Tan’s The Joy Luck Club.

喜福会读后感 第6篇

在《喜福会》中，沉默的主题似乎无处不在，但又仿佛是作者在漫不经心中流露出来的。书中的女性不仅是沉默的受害者，也是将沉默锻造成一把锋利无比的剑去互相伤害的杀手。小说中的琳多和魏芙丽这对母女就是最典型的代表。女儿魏芙丽少年时代很有下棋的天赋，每逢与人对弈都犹如有神人在暗中相助，无往而不胜。她在学校和市、州级的比赛中都捧回过奖杯，这令做母亲的颇为自豪。她走在街上，逢人便拿出登有女儿照片的杂志封面向人炫耀。这引起了女儿的反感。争吵之后，母亲一连几天缄口不语，对女儿下棋的事情不闻不问。最后，女儿沉不住气了，主动与母亲讲和，又继续参加比赛。然而，奇怪的是从此以后她身上的那股神奇的力量不见了。她一输再输，()直到最后不得不放弃了下棋，从一个天才的棋手变成了个“普通人”。这不能不说是一种超现实的描写。女儿身上神奇的力量自然是母亲所赋予的，而母亲的沉默竟永远地夺去了她的天赋。在母亲的眼中，女儿的生活是透明的，一切都逃不出她的眼睛。但是，当女儿带着她参观自己新布置的住所，希望间接地告诉她自己已再婚的消息，并迫切希望得到她的首肯与祝福时，母亲却作出一副充耳不闻、事不关己的样子，或者顾左右而言它，或者干脆不予理睬，把女儿悬在了沉默的半空中，使她受到了比来自话语更加深重的伤害。对这一点女儿有着切肤的体会：“我妈妈懂得怎样让人痛苦，这种痛苦比任何其他形式的痛苦都更加深重”。这位母亲能让“白色变成黑色，黑色变成白色”，让女儿经过精心调整、自以为满不错的新生活――包括新婚的丈夫、自己的女儿与新继父之间和谐的关系、丈夫送她的贵重礼物裘皮大衣、精心布置的家;一切的一切都变得一无是处、毫无价值可言。母亲利用沉默这把利剑把女儿戳得鲜血淋漓、体无完肤，而更可悲的是女儿从母亲身上继承来的那不可救药的心理情结(非要得到别人的肯定才能生活得心安理得)。一个非要不可，一个执意不给，这场不见硝烟的沉默战争使母亲和女儿都身心交瘁，伤痕累累，在双方感情上造成了本不该有的深深的伤害。一天，当女儿下定决心要去找母亲说个清楚时，她才在母亲睡熟的时候霍然发现，自己那强大的“敌人”原来不过是一个毫无攻击力，甚至是不堪一击的老妇人，这是多少年来她第一次发现母亲的真实面孔。经过一番母女间推心置腹的交谈。女儿终于认识到：

真的，我终于懂了，不是懂了她刚才所说的话，而是那些原本就是真实的事情。